There must be some sort of healthy-ish plant-based food at the networking event…
Well even if there isn’t, I should be able to just refuse them…
Even if I just eat a few chips, I surely won’t stuff myself with oily snacks and voluntarily destroy my fitness goals…
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Having these thoughts, I went to the career networking event for women in technology with full confidence, and here is my EPIC FAIL
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The networking event was at a rooftop bar – nice vibes, loud music, everyone was already holding a glass of alcoholic drink when I got there.
I looked around the room, there was not a single person who wasn’t holding a glass, oh well I guess I’d be the first one as I really am not a fan of alcohol.
I started talking to people and Canapé started coming out one after another, populating the tables and making the whole place smell a m a z i n g.
A huge sushi platter came out first, without any dietary labels, it seemed to be a mix of meat, fish and potentially vego ones?
Busy in conversations, I couldn’t get the chance to talk to the staff to figure out whether anything was vegan, so I kept talking, but my eyes kept drifting to the food, judging whether they might be vegan or not.
Then a plate of deep-fried snacks came out: spring rolls, curry puffs and some Asian dim sims, accompanied with sweet chilli sauce and sour cream. I knew I shouldn’t eat any of those but as soon as someone said it is a vego/vegan platter, my eyes lit up.
I reached out for a spring roll, dipped in the sweet chili sauce, only a little bit, holding onto my last bit of rational thought that this deep-fried thing with processed sugar sauce wouldn’t make my body happy afterward (I’m very sensitive to bad food).
It tasted so good that I couldn’t help but reach out to the curry puff beside it, this time dipping a large chunk of it into the sugar sauce.
My rational brain is ringing the alarms but my primitive reward center is being overwhelmed by flavor and the impulse to just eat more.
Look at those sweet potato chips, they look so tempting. Surely they are at least healthier than the normal chips because look at them, they are the SPECIAL SWEET POTATOES!
I immediately took one. Wow, it didn’t feel too oily! Next thing I knew, I was taking one after another, non-stop.
“Rainie, stop.” – my rational brain
“It’s made from plants, though.”
“But it’s deep-fried and look at that salt!”
“But it’s the best thing I can find here…”
My mouth is talking (and eating), my brain is also talking. I felt unstoppable, totally out of control.
Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, a whole plate of chicken wings and beef pies came out at the same time.
The people around me were excited, clearly wasn’t expecting so much yummy food at a free event.
I obviously was not going to eat any of that, but felt I had to eat something else instead…So I reached for more chips, spring rolls and curry puffs…
Finally, I couldn’t do it anymore. I’ve stuffed myself with a bunch of deep-fried finger foods, half bowl of the chips – what an epic fail.
I said to the people around me I had to use the bathroom and left the event. I didn’t know what’s going to happen had I stayed longer.
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You can probably imagine the story from here, I was so disappointed with myself – the total lack of self-control. I thought…I thought I’d be able to behave better! I thought my taste buds and brain have changed to not be tempted by those foods!
That curry puff tasted a bit like meat, was it even vegan?? Why did I feel embarrassed to ask?
Oh..my stomach is really not happy now.
I spent 2 hours feeling terrible, physically and mentally.
So I went on to a Facebook group “How not to die – Dr Greger 2.0” and asked for advice.
I am so glad I did. The responses I got were so supportive and educational – I realized so many people have gone through the same struggle, and we could do better!
7 tips on going to events and not end up like me
1. Eat something beforehand, never expect food at these events to be as healthy as what you can make at home.
2. Take some snacks with you – apples, nuts, homemade cookies etc.
3. Give the venue a call and ask for the menu before the event to be prepared.
4. (This one is my favorite) “You can always pull it out and ignore the sometimes rude looks or comments and know my health is more important than worrying about how I look not participating in the SAD (Standard America Diet) “.
5. Be mindful – try and think about the feeling you will get after eating that way. It never feels good right? Remember that guilt feeling.
6. (I also realized this one is so important) “Be ok with the idea that occasionally you’ll be less than perfect – like Dr gregor who says some days he doesn’t get anywhere near his own dozen and there are situations where it’s just really hard to put together a healthy meal. Diet health is more about the long term not the odd snack or meal”.
7. You can always do better next time. It is a journey. Do the best you can in any situation. Don’t beat yourself up. Next day you can go back to whole plant-based foods.
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I got up the next morning and read all 22 comments, feeling empowered again. Yes, I did worse than I wanted to. But I learned a valuable lesson and am stronger than ever. I made myself a healthy, beautiful oatmeal bowl and I feel great again.
Being healthy and plant-based is a life-long goal, it may not be possible to be perfect every day, but it should make you feel happy, healthy and fulfilled most days. If your will is not strong enough today, just learn from it and be a better version of yourself tomorrow. Reflect on your progress often, share your struggles with the community, and never burn out on your own.
I learned a great deal from this experience, and hope you can too (without going through the chips and spring rolls yourself haha…)
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